I know I am not pregnant any more, but that doesn't mean I am above having weird dreams/thoughts (apparently). I think it is because I am still waking up 2-3 times a night to nurse. Although, last night, Kelsey gave me 6 hours.... Too bad I didn't go to sleep right after she was done nursing (at 8:30). That would have been the smart thing to do, which I am apparently not.
Anyway, I was browsing Facebook last night before I went to bed, and saw a few pictures of my fabulous cousins who have now moved into the house my grandparents live in. I didn't think anything of it really. Until 2 am.
As I sat nursing sweet Kelsey, it occurred to me that, although I don't get back to my grandparents house all that often, it will not be the same when I do. Which made me think of the good times we had growing up. Utah is a pretty good distance, and 6 people is a lot of people to get out there. So, growing up, Dad would take 2 weeks off work, and he would drive the van while we sat in the back and watched movies, napped, and read. It took about 2.5-3 days out (and the same back). So we would have 1 week to play, and about 1 week of driving. As I look back at those times, all I can think is "Poor, poor dad."
When we got out there, we would split the time between grandparents, staying some days with one side of the family, and some days with the other. Since my grandparents on my mother's side haven't moved, I didn't have to reminisce about them :)
My dad's parents, well, they are the ones who now share their home. So, next time I get to go out there (whenever that may be) there will be no more sugary cereal breakfasts at the breakfast bar in Grandma's house. Grandma's house was where I was first introduced to Corelle dishes. Even in my youth, I knew the super thin dishes were cool. Grandma's dishes were (are? She could very well still have them) white with dark red/burgundy flowers around the edges. She had fabulous burgundy goblets to match (which I always felt grown up drinking from) and the silverware was metal, with a wood (?) tip at the end.
I know you don't care about these things, but these are the things I remember, and these are the things that have changed, and these are the things I think about at 2 in the morning.... :)
Also, as a side note for today, some prisoners escaped from the local prison last night. They have put Kari's school on lock down. The nice lady who helps the car riders get out of their cars in the morning said they could only go in a certain door, and I didn't think anything of it. Way to be observant and involved in your child's education Mom.... :p
Friday, March 30, 2012
Musings of a 2am Nursing + Lockdown
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Tummy Time
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Power Rangers
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Playing
Today I did some organization stuff I had been putting off doing while I was 8 months pregnant, 9 months pregnant, in the hospital, and 6 weeks postpartum, etc. You get the idea. I couldn't put it off any longer.
Thankfully, Kelsey took a good long nap this morning, and Kaitlyn and Dylan have been playing nicely together. It is nice when that happens! However, I catch bits and pieces of things they say while they are playing, and it makes me laugh. Today it seems, they have been playing "Time Out."
Dylan will use whatever his toy is to do something bad: push, hit, yell, etc. Then, Kaitlyn's "mommy" toy will put it in time out. We have cycled through cars, fairies, horses, crayons... At least they are getting the idea, even if they don't put it into practice...
Monday, March 26, 2012
Spoiler Alert!
Friday, March 23, 2012
That Weekend, Part 3
That night I got home, checked on the other two sleeping children (as I had gotten home around midnight) and updated Nana and Pop and my family via phone. Then, I went downstairs to nurse Kelsey again before crawling into bed. As I wrapped her in her swaddling blanket, and cuddled her for a second before laying her in her cradle, I quietly went to pieces. I had been strong when it counted, helped Kari get through the hard scary parts, then left her in the capable hand of the doctor, and the loving presence of her father. Now that all that was over, I could finally deal with the things that had been boiling under the surface for the last few hours. I am sure it was at least partially hormone related, as Kari's predicament was not life threatening, and she was entirely being taken care of, and the hard part was mostly over. Nevertheless, emotions are rarely logical, and Kelsey went to bed with a slightly damp swaddling blanket.
The next morning I woke up and called hubby. Kari had already improved quite a bit in that she could move her head. She could touch her chin to her shoulders (somewhat slowly). She still was very stiff, but it was an improvement none the less. We were fairly slow getting ready that morning, and didn't get over to the hospital until lunchtime. Nana, Pop, Kaitlyn and Dylan stayed for about an hour, wherein Kaitlyn and Dylan mostly watched cartoons on the tv. Then, Nana and Pop were nice enough to take them down to Pa's house. Pa is Nana's dad, so she wanted to make the short trip since she was so close. It was nice for Kaitlyn and Dylan to have a distraction and it was nice for me to only have to worry about Kelsey and I, since I knew where Kari and hubby were.
I ended up staying for most of the rest of the day. Having heard the doctors suggestion, I was having a really hard time. I could not stay away. But I kinda figured that once I was in the room, we were already exposed to whatever germs we were going to be exposed to, and so long as I stayed in the same germs, then it didn't really matter.... That was how I justified it to myself. Hubby could totally have handled the things that needed to be done. But, I didn't want to just sit at home waiting, I didn't want to go to Pa's, so the next logical step was to be there.... I am sure I would have felt even more guilty had we gotten sick too. I do have 4 children after all, I should think about what is best for all of them. Thankfully, it seems Kelsey and I are both ok. Friday passed with several hours in the hospital, and a visit from our good friends who still live in the area. I left about time for dinner, and had a quiet evening at home with just Kelsey and I.
Saturday morning I called to hear some great news: The doctor thought she could go home today. She needed a new round of antibiotics, and she should be discharged. So, I decided to just stay home, since supposedly she would be home in a few hours, and it would take me 40 minutes or more to get there. As with all things hospital, she ended up getting home much later (almost 6 hours), but coming home none the less. When she got home, she was a completely different child than the one that left. She was smiling again. She even wrastled with daddy.
Poor hubby was so tired from "sleeping" in the hospital. And I mean, being woken up every 3 hours for vitals. He mentioned something about not getting a lot of sleep because he was woken up so often, to which I responded "Gee... I wonder how that feels." To which he responded with a sheepish look. I would say now Kari is now fully recovered. She is done with the take home antibiotics and has started regular softball practice. But that is a topic for a whole different post :)
Thursday, March 22, 2012
That Weekend, Part 2
Picking up, right where we left off....
An abscess.... Um. Ok. What does that mean? An abscess is apparently just a pocket of infection. They don't always know where they come from or why they form. As was the case here. It doesn't exactly explain the stiff neck though. Which is cause for alarm in itself. He has mostly ruled out meningitis, but would like to be 100% sure on that as well.
So, our next step is to go across the street to the hospital, where they will do a CT scan to confirm where exactly an abscess is located and if it is an abscess at all. Also, where they will admit us, so we can treat the problem.
Kari is pretty much freaking out right now at the mention of hospital. She hasn't slept well, she is still in pain, this has been a much longer day/process than either of us had expected, and she doesn't want a shot. I am also freaking out, but trying very hard not to show it for her sake. I figure if I can be calm, then it will help her to get though this. So, I call hubby around 5pm, who is on his way home (thank goodness) from being out of town and say "Hey Honey. I think it would be best if you meet us over here. We'll be in the hospital." I also call home to tell Nana and Pop that we won't be home in time for dinner and to check on the other two children. Again, I am so blessed to have such good helpers, because while I didn't want them to be a burden on someone else, I didn't have to worry that they would be taken care of.
The CT scan required contrast to be injected into an IV. Dr. Blythe also wanted the CT Scan STAT, (which is doctor speak for in an hour or so), so we were supposed to get the CT scan first, before we went up to the pediatric floor. The Radiology nurse was very nice. She could clearly see that Kari was in pain and distress, and didn't want to stress her out anymore by fishing around for a good place to insert the IV. So, we got permission to go up to her room, so the pediatric nurses, who had much more experience, could hopefully do it a little bit better. The admitting nurses were lovely, and took the time to talk to Kari and do what they could to calm her down. They wrapped her in a warm blanket, exposing only her head and arm so they could insert the IV. I stood on the other side of her, and did my best to help her remain calm. She didn't even cry! She may have hyperventilated a little bit, but she was super brave. They put it right in her elbow, because it was the best place, and they only had to stick her once. However, they also put a little board behind her elbow to keep her from bending it, and messing up the IV.
By this point, Daddy is waiting for us downstairs in the Radiology waiting room, and Kelsey is starting to get hungry again. It took a few more minutes to get paper work in order, and to get the wheelchair for transportation, but we finally got downstairs. Hubby and I switched places, so I could go nurse, and he could stand by Kari. Then, went back up to the room and wait. Thankfully, it didn't seem like too much later when Dr. Blythe came up stairs to talk to us.
The CT confirmed there was an abscess. But wait! There's more! There were actually 2! One in the soft tissue of her throat (that he and I were able to see with the camera), and one in the muscle tissue of her neck, which was causing her to be stiff and in so much pain. There are 2 treatments for such problems:
1) IV antibiotics
2) Surgery to drain the abscesses
Dr. Blythe is, by trade, a surgeon, and usually would have chosen to do the surgery. But, the abscesses had odd placements. The one in the throat was right next to the carotid artery, and while he had confidence he could do it, in his words "That is not an area you want to muck around with". The one in the muscle tissue would just be fairly difficult to get to. He consulted with another pediatrician and decided the antibiotics were the way to go. Which meant Kari would be in the hospital for at least a few days. He also suggested (though not officially as a doctor) that Kelsey and I would want to stay away from the hospital if possible, as germy places are not exactly great hang outs for newborns (or people with such close contacts to newborns).
Once we finally decided against surgery, Kari was able to eat dinner (since you can't eat 12 hours before anesthesia). We dined on Arby's a la hospital bedside table and discussed what would happen the rest of the evening. Besides be inconvenient for me to try to stay with Kelsey, the doc had recommended against it, so we decided to leave hubby there. Thankfully, since he was coming home from out of town, he had his toiletries with him and a change of clothes (since he always takes an extra with him). He also messaged into work and told them he would not be coming in the following day. The first round of antibiotics was started at 9 CST and I left shortly thereafter to drive the 40 minutes home and leave my firstborn in the hospital with an IV and a sore neck that I had overlooked and down played. Yeah. I felt like a schmuck.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
That Weekend, Part 1
At the end of the post from Nana and Pop's week I alluded to an eventful weekend. This is how the week went down. Nana and Pop were their usual wonderful, helpful selves. They got Kari to school, got the brakes fixed on the van, took the kids shopping for shoes, and watched the kids while we had various follow up appointments. It was lovely. Sometime around Tuesday afternoon of that week, Kari came home from school and said that her neck hurt. She was still moving it, though fairly stiffly, and I just thought that perhaps she had slept wrong. So, I dosed her with ibuprofen and sent her on her merry way. She was content enough playing with her siblings and grandparents that she didn't mention it the rest of the day.
Wednesday, she woke up and went to school like normal, though Nana mentioned her neck still hurt. The nurse called about 1:30 pm to say that Kari was complaining that her neck hurt. Since there was not much time left for the school day, I asked to speak to Kari. I asked her if she could stick it out for the rest of the day, or if she wanted me to come and pick her up. She said she could stay, so she went back to class. When she came home that afternoon, we stepped up to a warm compress with the meds and told her if she didn't feel better in the morning, we would go to the doctor. By this point she also seemed to have developed a fever, though it never got over 99*, and I had no idea what could cause a sore neck and a fever, except meningitis, and the rest of her symptoms didn't seem to fit.
Thursday she went to school, though her neck was very stiff. She couldn't turn it in either direction, look up or down, and it hurt to open her mouth, though her throat wasn't sore at all. I had a follow up appt for my incision that day, but I made her an appt with the pediatrician before I left the house, just in case. Sure enough, while I was waiting for the doctor, hubby called to say the nurse had called his cell phone (I don't *officially* have one: it is just for emergencies, so I don't give out the number) to say that Kari was in the nurses office. She had, apparently, just burst out crying in the middle of class and wanted to go home. Thankfully, Pop was still at home with the other 2 kids, so I asked him to go get Kari, while I waited for the doctor. He again, gave her some meds and an icepack this time.
I got home from my appt, where I had been cleared to drive, and loaded Kari, Kelsey and I into the van to go to my favorite and most trusted pediatrician whose office is about 35 minutes away. "Why do you go so far away?" you ask? Because this doctor (Dr Matt Carter for those of you in Auburn... I highly recommend him) has never once made me feel like he is just hurrying me along to get to the next patient. He listens, is very smart, and when he isn't sure, doesn't feel bad calling in one of the other partners to ask for a second opinion. In other words, I have great faith in him. I would love to have someone closer, who doesn't use as much gas, and believe me, I have tried... 3 pediatricians later, we go back to someone who I have literally entrusted my children's life with.
Our appointment is at 1:30 central time (which is odd because we live in the eastern time zone... we cross that boundary somewhere between hither and yon) and were able to see one of his partners. By this time, Kari is in quite a bit of pain, though when you ask her, she says "Just a little bit". She still has a low grade fever of about 99* and just looks miserable. The pediatrician examines her, not quite as gently/slowly as Kari would have liked, gives her a strep test (just in case, even though neither of us thought it was, which she was not happy about because I think she didn't know what was going to happen) and then called his friends over at the Ear, Nose and Throat Specialists. We didn't have an appointment, but we went to go wait and get worked in. At this point, I am thinking it is a good thing I have brought 2 week old Kelsey with us. I have nursed her once, and while there was enough in the freezer to get her through, I don't think I would have survived.
We wait at the ENT office for about an hour and a half before the lovely Dr. Blythe (whose name will always remind me of Anne of Green Gables) has a chance to examine Kari. The meds have worn off for Kari, she hasn't been sleeping well, she thinks she is going to get a shot, and she is just not a happy camper. Again, the doctor tried to "help" her move her neck, and then asked her to open her mouth so he could look inside. That didn't go over well, because it is so painful for her to tilt the top of her head back. So, he has her smell some gas (which, I suppose, anesthetizes her nasal passage) and sends a small camera up her nose and down her throat. At this point, he shows me through the camera what he suspects is an abscess in the soft tissue at the back of her throat.
Great. Enter Mother's Guilt.
Okaaaaaaaay. Now what?
To Be Continued.....
Monday, March 19, 2012
Woefully
I felt kinda like I was woefully unprepared for 4 children. Then I thought, maybe not. Maybe I am just tired. It is not that Kelsey is hard to handle. Actually, she is by and large the most mellow of my children (thus far). She eats about every 3 hours during the day, gives me a stretch of about 5 hours at night, goes right back to sleep after the night time nursings, and is extremely tolerant of her siblings love and affection. In fact, she cries so infrequently, that I may or may not occasionally let her cry for 30 seconds because her face is so precious, and the sound is so sweet and pitiful.
The fact of the matter is, I feel great when I am sitting down. Like I am fully recovered and fully functional. Until I have sat for about 3 minutes, then I feel tired and unmotivated. When I am not struggling to keep my eyelids in an upright and open position I tend to either not want to do anything, or have a small, albeit precious, parasite in them. And, this time around, I am really enjoying her. I am sure I enjoyed each of my other babies, and I am not saying that I am enjoying her *more* or *less*. I am just saying I love to hold this bundle that is my own, and look at her, and stroke her cheek and call her George. But when I get up I am still more limited than I want/used to be... Slow. Unflexible. Jiggly. Comes with the territory of a now 5 week old, I suppose, but these are the things I tend to forget.
Said 5 week old is having more awake time, and I love to make eye contact with her, and watch her wiggle and squirm, and watch her hold her arms in close to her body and clean out the gunk in her hands because she holds her fists closed for so long.
Some fairly monumental things have happened in the past few weeks, and I have some catching up to do. But, for now, I am learning to be content to be just a little bit behind. (It just keeps me from searching for blog topics later) Content to not vacuum or sweep weekly, because, lets face it, I totally did that before Kelsey was born. Content to maybe not get everything done, or do it more slowly than I would have before (because while I am moving much better than I was, I am still not bounding up the stairs 2 at a time). I guess, as I sit here with a cute bag of flesh who is sticking out her tongue and occasionally pummeling me with her flailing fists, you could describe me as content. Content to be lazy. Content to be slow. Content (or at least accepting) of being chubby (where did all this extra skin come from?!?!).
There are worse things to be....

